At some point, things don’t happen the way they want it to be.
We spent most of the time understanding the complexities of relationship and one-by-one untangles the issues. Sad part is when you are now lost with what is happening to your group?
Here is John Heider suggestion to leaders through his book “TAO OF LEADERSHIP” page 27:
When you cannot see what is happening in a group, do not state harder. Relax and look gently with your inner eye.
When you do not understand what a person is saying, do not grasp for every word. Give up your efforts. Become silent inside and listen with your deepest self.
When you are puzzled by what you see or hear, do not strive to figure things out. Stand back for a moment and become calm. When a person is calm, complex events appear simple.
To know what is happening, push less, open out and be aware. See without stating. Listent quietly Rather than listening hard. Use intuition and reflection rather than trying to figure things out.
The more you can let go of trying, and the more open and receptive you become, the more easily you will know what is happening.
Also stay in the present. The present is more available than either memories of the past or fantasies of the future.
So attend to what is happening now.