At some point, things don’t happen the way they want it to be.
We spent most of the time understanding the complexities of relationship and one-by-one untangles the issues. Sad part is when you are now lost with what is happening to your group?
Here is John Heider suggestion to leaders through his book “TAO OF LEADERSHIP” page 27:
When you cannot see what is happening in a group, do not state harder. Relax and look gently with your inner eye.
When you do not understand what a person is saying, do not grasp for every word. Give up your efforts. Become silent inside and listen with your deepest self.
When you are puzzled by what you see or hear, do not strive to figure things out. Stand back for a moment and become calm. When a person is calm, complex events appear simple.
To know what is happening, push less, open out and be aware. See without stating. Listent quietly Rather than listening hard. Use intuition and reflection rather than trying to figure things out.
The more you can let go of trying, and the more open and receptive you become, the more easily you will know what is happening.
Also stay in the present. The present is more available than either memories of the past or fantasies of the future.
So attend to what is happening now.
Here, Heider offers profound insights and valuable suggestions for leaders seeking to enhance their effectiveness and cultivate a harmonious work environment. Drawing inspiration from the ancient Chinese philosophy of Taoism, Heider emphasizes the importance of embracing a balanced approach to leadership. He advocates for leaders to let go of rigid control and instead, adopt a more fluid and adaptable style that aligns with the natural flow of circumstances.
By embodying the principles of humility, compassion, as well as empathy, leaders can forge stronger connections with their teams and inspire them to reach their full potential. Heider’s timeless wisdom serves as a guiding light for modern leaders striving to create positive change and lead with integrity in today’s dynamic and fast-paced world. Through this book, he empowers leaders with the tools and mindset necessary to navigate the complexities of leadership. He also helps leaders unlock their full potential and create a culture of growth and achievement that will make them be better.